Week Three: Make Your Life So You!
Writing runs through my life like a river. There is always the sound of it, sometimes louder than others, as when the Rio Grande, my neighboring river, is made loud and raucous with the floods of melting snow. Other times it is quieter, a sort of plash, plash, plash. Sometimes it is so quiet, I need to move closer to hear the flow, but the flow is always there, always a companion. –Julia Cameron.
It is not how much we have but how much we enjoy that makes happiness. —Charles Haddon Spurgeon.
Don’t you love it when you sport a new purse, or wear a new outfit, and a friend says, “Oh, that is so YOU!”
That’s how your whole life should be…..so YOU! Even if you have a demanding job, 9 kids, 5 dogs, an unemployed husband and all sorts of craziness, your life is meant to reflect the unique gift that you are. No one else can express your perspective your way. And there are some people out there who can only receive that message from you. In other words, your life is an essential part of the puzzle.
That contribution and happiness is what gets lost in overcommitments, being pulled in too many different directions, or living with too much stress. That’s what Passion Fruit Writing (and the e-course) are all about: putting more of you into your life.
Let’s start by reflecting on what’s working really well in your life right at this very moment. Think about your life as it is presently constituted, and write down 2 Things That Work Really Well for Me.
Here’s an example from my life.
Since I became a mother, that part of my life has truly been easy and effortless. My kids have been delightful and I have not worried about their friends, grades or health. So that’s a big part of my life that has always worked well for me. I can’t say the same for every other part of my life.
Another part of my life that is working really well for me now, and has for much of my life, is my cooking. I love to cook and eat. Still, there was a long time in which cooking felt like a burden and I didn’t enjoy it very much or do it well. That was a sign that my life was out of kilter, but I didn’t pay any attention to it until everything fell apart for me. It was only then that I realized major adjustments were needed.
For some time I got away from cooking by having other people do that for me. As my life has become more on track (or more me,) I’m back to relishing recipes from my chef friend, Nancy Waldek, reading Bon Appetit, and taking occasional cooking classes.
You can see what’s working well in your life, and use that knowledge to rearrange other parts of your life to better suit you.
In retrospect, I have been able to see why my relationships with my children and my cooking worked so well, and transfer that same attitude to other areas of my life. This process has brought quantum improvement to my personal and professional lives. I know you can have the same experience, once you get clear about what you want.