When my youngest daughter, Success Princess, was in pre-school, her teacher used to praise me for allowing her to select her own outfits for school. The teacher would always say to me, "Of course, not all parents can do that." What she meant is that some moms prefer that the children wear clothing that actually goes together, whereas I was fine with Success Princess putting together all sorts of color, style and print combinations (this was before it was fashionable to combine prints, btw.) One of her favorite daytime accessories was a white boa.
The same principle applies to Doing Too Many Things At Once. I don’t recommend it for everyone. I don’t even recommend it for myself. But sometimes your projects converge and you’re driven a bit mad for a few weeks, or even months.
Here’s how I deal with this.
1. Remind yourself of why you’re involved in each project.
For me, the time of the wedding is explained in Monday’s blog post. The business has been growing for 2 years. The house closing happened when it did, I chose the best time for me within the constraints given. Kids are home for summer.
Obviously, not everything is getting done according to my standards.
2. Pare down where you can, including your expectations.
Here’s where I’m paring down: Meals and house organization.
Yesterday I bought Success Princess a children’s cookbook (by Williams Sonoma.) Today we had omelets, salad and corn chips for lunch. That’s not what I would normally prepare, but it was tasty.
I still have many boxes to unpack. Most of them are in the garage. What’s remarkable about that is that I am a closure-addict. I am the kind of person who turns in projects EARLY. I hate unfinished business.
I am learning to live with temporary disorganization in my house. It’s a matter of priorities. Not everyone can do this.
I am only swimming once a week. My plan is to go up to 2 times a week starting next.week, or the week after.
We postponed our honeymoon. (Actually we took it before getting married.)
3. Get help.
Being the bossy oldest of 4 kids, delegating is natural to me. I delegate everything as far down as possible. They never, repeat never, do it (anything) as well as I would, but more gets done. And it keeps other people busy.
Success Princess just proof-read this article for me.
Fortunately, everyone in the family is on board with all the projects.
4. Don’t explain or defend what you’re doing.
Not everyone on the planet is going to approve of what you’re doing.
The thing is, if you’re reasonably satisfied with your answers to #1, you don’t need to defend or explain to anyone else.
Your confidence will eventually win out.
5. Schedule time out.
In my case, I knew this life storm was coming so I took some time to rest in May. I’m also planning to kick back…..Labor Day Week-end. 😉
By then things should be at the new normal.
How do you do everything at the same time?