You know how to set priorities and focus on one task at a time. But what do you do when EVERYTHING on your list is super important? This is the essence of what gets us frazzled in the first place — so many good things! I dealt with this question in last night’s teleclass but by the time I got to it, our time was almost up.You many be wondering, how can someone outside my personal situation shed any meaningful light on this? Six years ago, I lived a life of ultra extreme busy-ness because I could not answer this question and decided to sacrifice myself in order to be all things to all people. Guess how that turned out..
This is also a huge and recurring issue with many coaching clients.
Overwhelm is the modern women’s plague. For centuries and millenia women had few, if any options, other than drudgery and more drudgery, doing all that was necessary for survival. Technology provides us certain freedoms, but it’s easy to convert the ability to do many things into the need to do many things.
In other words, the demands on your time are infinite. The number of things you want to do, the number of causes you wish to support, is infinite. The demands from your employer, I’m thinking, is also infinite.
This is where having clarity pays off big time….clarity about who you are and what is most important to you. The tricky part is separating the person you think you’re supposed to be from your authentic self.
Here are some questions to help you sort out the great from the good, the nice from the indispensable.
1. What will happen if I don’t do this?
2. If I were super wealthy, would I still do this?
3. Who benefits from my doing this?
4. Will I regret not doing this in 10 years?
5. Can it wait until next week, next month, or next year?
6. Can somebody else do it? (It does not matter that they do not do it as well as you do.)
7. In comparing your alternatives, which pays off the most for you? (Think ROI — Return on Investment of your time.)
8. Am I doing this to please someone else?
9. Is this fully in alignment with the person I want to be?
10. Do I really really want to do this, or what’s really in it for me?
Knowing what’s most important to you is, of course, essential. That’s what journaling does for you.
When in doubt, ask your journal.