As many of you know, last Friday was a special day at our house as we celebrated the 13th anniversary of the arrival of Success Princess. Today at breakfast she remarked, "Mom, I just can’t believe that depression really exists. How can people feel so sad that they need medicine to get through the day?" Research shows sales of antidepressant drugs total some $20 Billion in the U.S. An article in USA today cites the number of Americans taking this type of medication as 27 million, roughly 10% of all adults. Enough about that. Just to make the point that a lot of people feel really sad, and today I’m writing about feeling splendid most of the time.
I don’t know any tricks to getting everybody to do your will. There is, however, the trick of choosing to feel grateful:
Live each day to its fullest, like you mean it, like it’s your last day.
In practice, this is what living full-out looks like:
– You’re not waiting for the right relationship or the right job before you decide you can be happy.
– You look for the absolute best in everything, every day. (This is a habit and it takes practice, trust me.)
– You make your work space the most beautiful place you can imagine. (Same for your home, of course.)
– You use your favorate china.
– You don’t wait for the windfall to make fun and exciting plans. (More about this below.)
In other words, you don’t wait for X, in order to feel Y. You just work on feeling Y, or great, right now at this very moment.
Here’s a story about moving forward on a project without the funding in place.
Three years ago I promised Middle Child a trip to Europe for her 16th birthday. Growing up bi-culturally, she had certain expectations for a big celebration of her 15th birthday, as a quinceañera. Today, hispanic young ladies often choose between a big party or a trip. So, hence the promise.
Now, keep in mind that at the time this promise was made, I fully expected to be employed as an assistant professor at the university where I had worked since 1997. Reasonable enough assumption, right?
That would not be correct.
SInce making that promise I finished my doctorate, paid off completely my student loans, moved to Charleston, started a business, bought a home and got married. If you look at it logically, this month really isn’t the best time for me to go off galavanting to Europe.
But galavant I shall, with Middle Child. We will have a blast.
And you know what, the money to pay for the trip absolutely showed up. From two unexpected sources.
Don’t wait, life is today. Move forward, anyway! If you have a tip on savoring each day, please share it by commenting below. Inquiring minds want to know!