It’s Thursday before Mother’s Day and I have put nothing in the mail to my mom. Actually I have nothing to mail her yet. If you’re in the same boat, hurry up and write a blog post about her. Maybe she’ll like it half as much as the artwork you brought home from kindergarten way back. At least that’s what I’m hoping.
9 Beautiful Things My Mom Taught Me:
1. Use cloth napkins. (This was way before it was environmentally correct to do so. I think it’s because in her childhood they couldn’t afford those snazzy paper napkins.)
2. Life is not about fitting in. (Even during those years she belonged to the local aristocracy, fitting in was not something that would have occured to my mother.)
3. Eat well at a beautiful table: delicious and nutritious (and what makes you feel ambitious.) Take time to make the table lovely.
4. Celebrate with enthusiasm. It’s easy to remember the tests we didn’t ace, the people who didn’t get our art, the times we put our feet in the wrong places; it’s hard to remember to celebrate all the victories. Fortunately my kids always remind me to celebrate their wins, their recitals, their grades….usually with ice cream.
5. Learning is fun for its own sake. It’s so countercultural these days, but my parents never put pressure on me or my siblings to get certain grades. Even when we played the role of the happy underachiever. I know I could have gotten better grades, but I also love learning….for its own sake.
6. You can do more than you think you can. My parents never doubted I could live the gracious life I wanted, even when it seemed impossible. Even now, when I look back at the limits I thought were there, I see they were only illusions.
7. Elegance transcends budgets. True elegance is not in designer labels (although I certainly have my favorite labels.) Elegance is a way of living that values simplicity and quality over shiny bright objects.
8. If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything. There is an art to disagreeing without being disagreeable. Stating a problem that needs to be solved is possible without blame or criticism. (This skill takes commitment but it totally worth it.)
9. Don’t skimp on shoes. Quality shoes can upgrade clothing from thrift shops or Target. In other words, shoes make the outfit.
Thanks, Mother. Love you!