"Self-confidence is knowing that you have the capacity to do something and deciding not to give up." The Dalai Lama
During my years teaching communication courses at East Carolina University and College of Charleston, I got to hear many incredible true-life stories through students’ presentations. Stories that stick out in my mind include a young man’s sharing his experience of being falsely diagnosed with a fatal illness, another who failed repeatedly to try out for the baseball team before getting into a game he enjoys much more – golf, and a young woman who out-of-the-blue had to deliver a baby for her mom’s friend. So many fabulous stories; so much wisdom (I won’t say "wasted on the young!")
But one story really stands out in my mind to illustrate our incredible power. Here’s what happened to this young girl, we’ll call her Suzy.
One Christmas Suzy had her heart set on getting a new Barbie. But not just any Barbie, it was one where you could cut her hair. At least the doll came with scissors.
It was the last gift that little seven-year-old Suzy opened, and she felt pure bliss. Barbie’s hair went from hip length, to waist length, to long layers to asymmetrical, to shoulder length, to China chop, to pixie short…finally ending with a total buzz cut. Suzy was enchanted. And then a little bored. Two hours had passed in hair cutting ecstasy – what next?
The logical thing to do was of course for Suzy to cut her own hair. Which she did. She cut layers and more layers and then a bit more. Some might called the end result "massacre with scissors." Suzy knew it was THE cut of her life and couldn’t wait to show her parents.
Little Suzy had a hard time understanding why her mother wanted to take her to a beauty salon to "fix" her hair style, after all what was there to fix?
Mom knew Suzy would be subject to endless ridicule at school, possibly traumatized for life.
Suzy knew everyone at school would be so envious of her cosmetology savvy and skill. Her friends would turn green with envy.
Who do you think was right?
Her complete and unquestioned confidence in her appearance caused other people to see her beauty.
That story was told 12 years after the fact and Suzy still has pictures of that hair cut. She would never cut her hair again, but she cherishes that memory of boundless self-value.
We all have had that level of confidence at times, but where is it when you need it? Confidence is like a muscle that you exercise. You decide to be more confident, to choose the positive interpretations, to take care of yourself, and the feeling of confidence comes to you after that.
Your self confidence is worth more than money in your bank. When was the last time you felt this kind of confidence? Tell us by leaving a comment below.