One of my beautiful daughters recently bucked the high-school tradition by deciding not to participate in a 3-day "prom house" with her date for prom. I had misgivings about 20 teenagers spending 3 days in a beach house designed for 12 people, with little if any supervision, but ultimately she made the decision not to go. (Thank God!) What she was most worried about in letting the other people know of her change of plans, was that they would "get mad at me." Not a very empowering way of thinking, right?