Enjoy Unexpected Consequences from Clarity
Clarity is vastly underestimated.
You don't usually hear much about it, unless you're diamond shopping, which I hope you do on a regular basis. ;-)
Clarity is a huge topic and probably I'll write a book about it next year, based on my eCourse, but I want you to think more about clarity to get some major benefits in your life. One good thing about Clarity is that it's free.
If you're more clear about what is important to you, what you want out of life and how you want to show up everyday, (Unexpected consequence #1) people start treating you better. I've seen this in my own life and with my clients. You don't actually have to tell people to be more respectful, they just do so....when they're around you. That's because you exude an energy of confidence, that's not arrogant.
That doesn't mean anyone is going to applaud you for deciding to get clear on your values and priorities. That never happens.
(Unexpected consequence #2:) People who have clarity don't need approval from other people. Not seeking approval, even if you're quiet about it, frees up your own energy for bigger projects and makes you a more magnetic person. Which is why people start treating you better.
In my personal case, getting clear brought me clients who simply showed up in my life (that was in 2009.) Clarity also brought me an nonpersonalized email that ended my 9-year teaching gig at ECU...which was probably one of the best things that ever happened to me, even if I wasn't too happy (I was actually hysterical for a few days, outraged!) at the time. Life was responding to my clarity.
(Unexpected consequence #3) Clarity makes you more decisive. I don't need to remind you how true it is that Fortune Favors the Bold. If you know what you want, it's easier to say "no" to what you don't want. It's easier to focus on your most cherished goals.
That doesn't mean everyone in your life will approve of your decisions. Someone may choose to get offended, but that's their business, not yours.
(Unexpected consequence #4) Some people will drop out of your life, or at least talk to you a lot less frequently. When you stop wasting time bad-mouthing people and situations, you find that with some people, you don't have much to talk about. So you end up talking to different people....eventually.
(Unexpected consequence #5) Clarity drives away stress. So much stress comes from a) trying to please everybody or b) taking responsibility for tasks and projects that are not important to you, may not need to be done in the first place and at the very minimum should be done by somebody else.
Because your clarity lowers your stress level, you can actually relax a bit and have more fun!!!
So.....if clarity is so great and powerful, why isn't everyone working on it?
The reason is simple: F E A R.
That's fear of getting out of your comfort zone and fearing that if you know what you really want you'll die of frustration because you can't have it anyway.
Do you know anyone who has no idea how much money is in their bank accounts? (Any ressemblance to the author of this blog post in her former un-clear state of mind is of course purely coincidental!!) That's someone who is hoping for the best, surely working with a hefty cushion for error, but is afraid of knowing the actually balances. So if that person's goal is to have more money, how will she know when she achieves that?
He who doesn't know how much money goes in and out each month lacks clarity around finances. And probably around a lot of other topics.
Does finding a nickel on the street count as having more money?
That depends upon your clarity level.
Clarity doesn't usually come all at once but in bits and pieces. How has clarity helped you lately?