Usually becoming more confident is a major goal for Mixonian’s amazing and accomplished clients (which somehow describes all of them). Cultivating confidence in yourself is the foundation for doing what you’re here to do. I’m talking about that thing that you keep pushing back and trying to forget.
If you have a desire to achieve something, you’re meant to do it. The fact that it’s scary serves to grab your attention. It’s nature’s way of helping you focus.
- You deserve a raise and so far no one’s offered it to you.
- It’s the perfect job for you, but you have to interview first.
- You have to tell your mom (or other VIP) something you know will make her hysterical.
- You think someone can help you with your project, but she doesn’t know you, yet.
- Someone always manages to forget your contribution to the team win.
- You seriously need to confront someone at work.
- You have this great idea, but nobody knows about it.
- This meeting is so derailed and no one is getting it back on track.
- Lighten up. Laugh. Is the situation really life or death? Find the funny side and then just say what you need to say.
- Listen to Brave by Sara Bareilles, or come up with your own Confidence Playlist.
- Chance favors the prepared mind. So do your homework. Research the company, the person, the event, the market, the culture, the geography.
- Smile more than necessary. Smiling raises your own energy level and that of anyone who sees you. And it’s free!
- Forgive yourself, as you forgive others. Nobody’s perfect. Give yourself, and others, a break. While you never want to be arrogant, extreme self criticism is a pervasive form of madness.
- List your wins, even if they seem small. Noticing your very-real-but-unpublished victories prepares your brain to guide you to bigger wins ahead.
- Whether you’re networking, interviewing or pitching, make it all about them, not about you. Find something about that person you can sincerely compliment, or at least remark upon.
Best for last. BONUS CATALYST: Detach from the outcome.
That means your success is never tied to 1 conversation, 1 meeting, 1 pitch, 1 interview. If that particular outcome is not what you wanted, it’s a fabulous learning experience and the fact that you did it, makes you ready for something even better.