Emotional Intel: You Don’t Have to Be Nice ALL the Time

April 2, 2018

“Such a nice young man.” “She’s such a nice lady.” I get concerned if I hear myself being described as a “nice lady.” Preferable adjectives (for those interested) include: agreeable, friendly, cheerful, funny, intelligent and positive. “Quirky” is also acceptable. “Nice” officially means “pleasing, agreeable, delightful”. Sounds good, right? The problem is, unofficially, “nice” means […]


Emotional Intel: What Jealousy Feelings Say About You

March 26, 2018

Prefer to listen? Click below. Emotional intelligence is about using your head to manage your own emotions and those of others. Emotions can be positive or negative, high intensity or low, but today’s competitive market demands emotionally intelligent leaders. For example, jealousy showed up at my office last week. I have had a huge business […]


Your Constraints Are There to Help You (part 1/2)

March 20, 2018

They said it was impossible. On February 22, 1980, the United States Hockey Team, comprised mostly of college players, did just that. They defeated the defending “invincible” champions, the favorites to win the Olympic gold medal, the Soviet Union squad, by 4-3 at Lake Placid. Coached by former player Herb Brooks; the story was captured in the 2004 movie starring […]


3 Steps to Protect Your Precious Energy from Negative People

March 12, 2018

Whenever I teach brainiacs my tools for higher performance (which is what I do for a living), I get asked this same question. “How do I deal with negative people in my life so they don’t bring me down?” To be a high performer you must protect your precious energy for the valuable life force […]


Introvert Ways That Win People Over

March 3, 2018

Winning people over seems more challenging for introverts who are often drained by TMC (too much conversation.) But today, competition for attention is out of control for everyone. When you see someone looking at their watch, you know they’re reading texts, not checking the time (aka not listening to you.) Even so, there are introvert […]