You probably already know that the fear of public speaking is top-ranked in our country. Even though I’ve been working with clients and students for many years, I never cease to be amazed at how attractive, smart, articulate, accomplished women can feel so uneasy about talking in front of a group.
It’s easy to see why other people should be more confident, it’s a lot harder to BE more confident yourself. But definitely worth the effort.
It’s easy to see how silly other people’s fears are. It’s harder to face your own silly fears. Let’s take a look at what is really behind the fear of public speaking.
1. Fear of embarrassing yourself.
The chances of doing this are pretty remote but even if you, laugh it off. Don’t take yourself soooo seriously that this fear keeps you from living your wow life.
2. Fear of people being rude to you.
If you haven’t noticed already, some people are rude. That’s their problem, not yours. Shake it off.
3. Fear of people disliking you.
There’s nothing more annoying that people who want everyone to like them. I know, I used to be there. You sell your soul for approval and ignore your own power. Is this where you really want to go?
4. Fear of making a mistake, or worse, failure.
Come on now, if you’re not making mistakes, you’re not really alive. The ONLY way to be creative and innovate is to make mistakes. You can’t succeed without failing either; it’s an integral part of the process of success. Celebrate your mistakes; laugh at your failures!
5. Fear of success.
You might actually make the sale/get the promotion….and live up to higher expectations. Yes, it’s scary, and exhilarating, and dynamic. Try it, you might like it.
The only way around fear of public speaking is through it. Get someone to hold your hand, and you’ll be fine.