This bride is my sister. Probably you’re not putting together a wedding right now, although you could be. This year has been a bumper time for getting married. From May through July of this year, my fiance’s ex and her brother got married (but not to each other,) two of our local violinist friends got married, my ex is getting married and so am I. It’s rather fashionable these days. I say it’s the economy. Which is just another proof for my theory that what your good life depends not on what’s actually going on around you but how you look at it.
Not to get off topic but on the subject of happy perspectives, here’s another example. I was feeling a bit annoyed at my house for not being bigger than it actually is. Having grown up in 2 different houses roughly 5 times the size of this one, I probably have a skewed concept of what reasonable living space is anyway. It’s so context dependent. But consider this, if living in a beautiful ginormous house were the key to happiness, my parents would still be deliriously and happily married to each other.(They divorced in 1987.) We lived in a glorious mansion for many years. It was not the key to happiness, although it was fun for us kids.
I don’t think getting married is, either. My dad used to tell me that if you’re happy as a single person, you’ll be happy as a married person as well.
But I digress. This post is essentially about project management.
The first step in putting together a beautiful wedding, from the bride’s point of view, is finding the groom. I don’t know about you but I put a lot of thought into what my wedding would be like, long before my first date. (That’s a topic for a separate and rather long discussion.)
You may be thinking that Ruben and I just all of a sudden decided to get married. It’s actually something we had talked about for 3 years. I’ve been the one putting it off.
So, once you have a groom, you’re ready to decide the following:
– number of guests
– marriage license
In our case, most everything has fallen into place.
Date: As far as the date was concerned, there were 2 key factors: Ruben’s visa to come here (from Venezuela) and getting our 4 kids together. He got his visa in April and got things together to move in late May. The only time we would have the 4 kids together would be July 15-26, a week in August, and then Christmas.
To avoid setting up 2 different households after he moved here, we decided to go with the earliest date, which is next week-end.
Place: Ruben and I are both Catholic, I am more so than he. Second marriages for Catholics are extremely complicated so I’ll summarize and say we are going for a "spiritual" ceremony on the beach. The officiant is also an entrepreneur, which makes me smile.
Guests: My family, a couple of close friends. None of Ruben’s family can come now so we’re doing a bigger reception later. You are welcome to come to that, tba.
Reception: With a short guest list, we’re going to a nice downtown Charleston restaurant. I must say that Charleston is absolutely the best place to get married and you really should consider moving here. It’s also the best vacation spot so if you live here it’s like being on perpetual vacation, except when it’s not.
Marriage license: Another great thing about South Carolina. Getting a marriage license takes about 5 minutes and $70.
Officiant: Found one on the internet. Super nice guy. If you’re interested in finding good things in Charleston, try charlestonsfinest.com. It’s a great resource.
Photographer: Still working on this one. My son takes great photographs and has a professional lens, but still it would be nice to have someone take pictures. We’ll see how that unfolds.
Dress: This is hard to believe and of course there’s a story to it but we actually had new J. Crew wedding dress lying around. It fits absolutely perfectly and I had it cut short.
Of course the event hasn’t taken place yet. I’ll let you know how it goes. Have you even put something together in record time that just flowed?