“Self-confidence is knowing that you have the capacity to do something and deciding not to give up.” The Dalai Lama
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Because confidence doesn’t come from the outside . There’s no confidence osmosis. It doesn’t rub off from your accomplishments like the white stuff that sticks to the bottle after you peel off the label.True confidence comes from how you think about yourself. Click To Tweet
A specific way to grow TRUE CONFIDENCE.
Did you know that your brain is constantly rewiring itself? That’s what neuroplasticity is all about. Use this knowledge to grow your brain!
Psychologist and researcher Dr. Carol Dweck coined the “growth versus fixed mindset” framework more than 10 years ago. This concept allows you to train your brain to be a better problem solver by adapting more of a growth mindset.
A person with a growth mindset sees mistakes or setbacks as opportunities for learning. Growth mindset means to focus on the process of mastering something new, to enjoy being challenged, and to learn.
In contrast, a person with a fixed mindset views her abilities or skills as inborn, and avoids trying new or challenging activities or goals because of fear of failure. The fixed mindset sees outcomes through a binary lens of success or failure, rather than seeing opportunity for experimentation and growth.
The fixed mindset tends to focus obsessively on outcomes.
You grow your brain’s ability by shifting your focus to effort, instead of outcome.
With a growth mindset, the focus is on the process. Regardless of whether you achieve the goal, of whether the outcome is perfect, be sure to notice what you’ve learned and how you’ve grown. You become more comfortable with making blunders because you know those are just opportunities for learning and improving.
Growth mindset, when applied to your thoughts about yourself, takes your focus off past accomplishments. Instead, you want to consider what you’ve learned and how you’ve grown as a person and as a business owner. Maybe even as a parent or community leader.
Growth Mindset = True Confidence
EXERCISE: Write down 10 ways you have grown personally or professionally in the last year or so. Think about specific skills you have improved (example, sales or giving feedback). Maybe you have become more patient or compassionate.
Read over your list and notice your internal state. Feeling proud, strong, or even relief from negative self-talk, that means your brain is getting more resilient! Read over the list frequently until you internalize these accomplishments. Your self-talk improves a bit with each reading.
And that shift in thinking, my friend, is sure to grow your true confidence.