My client, a physician, showed up an hour late to our training session. If you work with physicians, their work often makes them late for things. Yet it really ticked me off.
Yesterday I had an unpleasant meeting in which someone I had trusted disappointed me.
Adding salt to the wound it’s Lent and I have done the most ridiculous thing in giving up wine for these endless six weeks. (What was I thinking?)
So my crankypants state of mind is totally justified. I’m feeling defeated even though I know none of this is personal. Maybe it’s sadness because our #BrandYou challenge is over.
A crankypants attitude is never useful. (No matter how nice it feels to wallow in self-pity.)
Fortunately my physician client was extremely apologetic and it was impossible to stay annoyed with him.
Mood swings affect certain people, especially the ones not taking Prozac. Negative energy spreads faster than fake news. Your negative mood can lower the team’s productivity, scare off clients and give you an undeserved rep as a “difficult person.”
Dr. Kim Cameron and his colleagues at the University of Michigan (#gowolverines), have research indicating positivity not only affect individual performance but organizational outcomes. (Research from the Journal of Applied Behavioral Science)
Here are some easy and effective positive things they found you can do
- Caring for, being interested in, and maintaining responsibility for colleagues as friends.
- Providing support for others, including offering kindness and compassion for those who are struggling.
- Avoiding blame, forgiving mistakes.
- Inspiring each other.
- Emphasizing meaning in the work.
- Treating all with respect, gratitude, trust & integrity.
Cameron and his colleagues explain positive practices have these two huge impacts:
- Increase the level of positive emotions.
Positive energy gives people access to more resources and raises their abilities by improving personal relationships. Positive energy also amplifies creativity.
- Buffer against negative events like stress. Positive energy makes your more resilient.
If you’re human, you’re going to wake up on the wrong side of the bed on occasion.
#1 The first step is to acknowledge you’re in a crankypants state of mind. (Hopefully that’s not very often.) Crankypants can mean you’re discouraged or feeling low energy.
Your energy level affects your team more you may realize. You absolutely can be a more energetic leader deciding to do so.
#2 Let people who work closely with you know that you’re having an off morning. Unless that’s what they hear every morning, usually your team will help cheer you up.
It takes commitment to be a consistently high-energy, positive leader. Keep your energy positive means taking care of your body in terms of sleep, nutrition and exercise. It also means curating what goes into your mind.
Focusing on the positive is an ancient success secret. Even King Solomon wrote thousands of years ago, “For as a man thinks in his heart, so is he” (Proverbs 23:7).
Negative thoughts drain your energy. Positive thoughts maintain or expand your energy.
#3 If you’re still feeling negative take a couple of minutes to practice extreme gratitude. The fact that you are reading this means you have A TON to be grateful for. Don’t forget that.
The most impactful move is: Decide to Be Energetic
If you are healthy, you become more energetic by simply acting more energetic. Your emotions take cues from your body. Walk faster, stretch out your arms, power pose, sit on the edge of your seat, and smile, you will soon feel more energetic. There’s research that shows when you pretend to be happy (even just by smiling), you will actually get into a better mood.
#4 Look for the intuitive lesson.
Maybe there’s a message in your crankypants feeling. Maybe it’s an indication it’s time to take action or make a decision.. Everyone has intuition but it’s not something we talk about in at work.
Simply ask yourself, “Is there something I need to change?” If you have a journal, write down the question and see what comes to mind. Whatever question you ask, you will get it an answer.
Don’t ask, “Why does this always happen to me?” ask “What next step can turn this around?”
Consider the suggestion of Les Brown: Don’t say, ‘I’m having a bad day.’ Say, ‘I am having a character-building day.’
It’s common to think that your time is your most valued asset. Your energy has more inert power to achieve your goals. Don’t let a crankypants mood take a day away from you. Make it a character-building day.