EVERYTHING YOU WANT comes to you through people.
Serendipity is the fruit of developing relationships with interesting people, built on trust and mutual respect.
Think about how you met the love of your life, how you got the job you now have and the last time you had an unexpectedly fantastic time. I bet serendipity played a role in there somewhere.
”[M Click To Tweetaximize the serendipity around you….Many people do not realize that they are getting a lucky break in life when they get it. Nassim Nicholas Taleb, The Black Swan” username=”@lauramcamacho”]
Networking is the traditional way adults to get to know said interesting people. However, the BEST networking events are not advertised. So, if you’re not being invited to these gatherings (yet), no worries!
Sooooo…Create your own invitation-only events.
More fun events = more chance encounters = more serendipity.
On a small scale this could even be having coffee with one person at a time. Or take advantage of one of the many many events already out there to introduce yourself to people who are taking action and making things happen; don’t just sit back and complain about how the unfairness of it all.
Enjoying oneself at a professional networking event can be an acquired taste. My experience is that not all events are equal, but the differentiating factor tends to be the attitude I bring with me.
My favorite events these days are the ones where I know so many people that I don’t get to meet quite as many newbies. No matter. As Mixonian Institute has grown so much (my oh my!), I have less time to attend events anyway. AND…a rule of life is that the best events always happen at the same time.
Here is what I’m doing these days to nurture and build my network:
Friends introduce you to their friends.
That’s because I introduced my friends to each other.
Be a connector. Ask to be introduced.
(You do want to have permission to introduce someone, it’s so much easier to build a relationship with a friend of a friend as some people may be on a crunch project and not ready to mingle.)
When you connect other people, unanticipated value eventually flows back to you.
2. Invite people over.
Entertaining at home is work. But the reward is that you get to invite the people you want to know better on your own territory! Mix up people you know well with people who are new to your circle. Make sure you include some flaming extroverts to keep the conversation sparkling!
You can spice up a party with some of these:
- hired help (bartender, server, DJ)
- board games (Scattergories or Cards Against Humanity are two options.)
- conversation starters (download 25 Imaginative Conversation Starters, print, cut them out and place in a bowl)
- a theme that invites comments/conversation
- rose petals on the floor
You do not have to fix fancy food. Nobody is looking for duck a l’orange at your house. Something I do that’s easier than entertaining at home is to occasionally invite several friends to meet for lunch.
3. Get moving.
Take a friend to the gym. Join a league sports team. Invite someone to walk with you.
Or be a regular at an exercise class like Kick Fit Studio. It’s easy to bond when you sweat together.
4. Stay top of mind.
Send people cards, texts, links to articles, GIFs, flowers, chocolate bars, swag, tickets…. It’s so fun to get something unexpected in your email box or front door.
Cross-pollinate your ideas from diverse personalities, cultures, industries, disciplines, and locations. Surround yourself with a crazy mix of people. Develop a variety of skills (mixing drinks, juggling). The mashup among ideas from all these sources gives you a fresh perspective. That is what you use to problem solve and conjure even bigger and better ideas and solutions.
And that’s a start to experiencing more serendipity in your life!
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