We human beings are meant to live in community. The novelty is that today, technology allows us to construct our tribe, rather than being born into some caste with all its limitations.
Hopefully, your family is at the center of your tribe and you build it out from there.
It can feel a bit like sewing your parachute as you jump out of plane. And threading a needle with so much wind in your face is challenging.
Specific Creative Tribe-Building Tips
- Tribe-building is part of your job that no one mentions in interviews or oversees later. But the elves will not do this for you. Schedule time for this weekly. If it’s not on the schedule, it won’t get done.
- Attend professional events and conferences from time to time. For extra points, occasionally find one that’s not in your industry but sounds like fun. This will force you to think about your own work differently.
- Create your own event by inviting people to lunch (or dinner or curling). Invite twice as many people as you feel comfortable with. If you fear no one at all will attend, include your best friend on the list, the one you always count on. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised with all who come.
- Some people will fall out of your tribe, you may even delete them from the list, but don’t make a scene about it. People grow at different rates, and sometimes in different directions.
- Keep track of people who join your tribe. Send them articles, podcast links, coupons, swag, invitations, clever cards, handwritten notes of appreciation, and of course, chocolate. This is how you avoid reaching out to people only when you need something from them, which is tacky.